CAL – The Forum Writing Guideline (Item # F-1)

Next week I’ll be posting an update on several Al‑Anon guidelines that have been revised this year. However while I was researching those, it led me to this guideline for The Forum that was very recently updated – just last month, in October 2021, in fact! It got me wondering, 🤔 “What changed exactly?” See…

MTG – Orlando – “Peace Within”

WHAT I LEARNED: When I substitute the phrase “I hope” in place of “I expect,” then it allows me to let go of the outcome & my expectations don’t grow into resentments.  Even better, is when I add at the end of “I hope…” this phrase: “…and if it doesn’t happen, then I will still…

N. FL Area Convention 2018 – Days 1 – 3

WHAT I LEARNED: 1. Fear is a dark room where negative emotions are exposed. 2. After I make amends, my weapons are no longer licensed. 3. The more I forget, the more I keep coming back! 4. I need to let go… of my need to know. 5. Sometimes I need to experience the consequences of…

MTG – Orlando – “College Park 12 Step”

WHAT I LEARNED: 1. A few paradoxes of the Al-Anon program: A) Letting go takes a lot of work; B) Being powerless gives me power; C) Helping can harm. 2. There are 3 levels of detachment: middle-finger, neutral, & loving!

CAL – Area Archives (Item # G-30)

WHAT I LEARNED: Much like a library’s collection, archives grow continuously & are typically limited by physical space.  This guideline focuses on the preservation of Al-Anon’s local history, but only from a standpoint of keeping paper items & audio tapes – which means we are relying on the Area Archivist (or a designated committee) to…

CAL – The Al-Anon Focus (Item # P-45)

WHAT I LEARNED: 1. Originally, in 1978, this pamphlet was called “Double Winners” but was given its current title 4 years later (with the added subtitle: “For Al-Anon/Alateen Members Who Are Also Recovering Alcoholics”) to avoid giving the impression that one member was more important than another.  Although I sometimes still hear the term “Double…

CAL – How Can I Help My Children? (Item # P-9)

WHAT I LEARNED: 1.“Helping” is a tricky word in this program.  This pamphlet basically boils down to setting a good example & “Secure your own mask first” before assisting children (or anyone else for that matter).  It’s full of tips, personal stories, a checklist for parents, Steps, Traditions, slogans, & an excerpt from the pamphlet “Dear…

CAL – To Parents of Alcoholics (Item # P-16)

Yesterday I finished the Adult Children of Alcoholics Newcomer Packet (item # K-21).  This week there’s only this one pamphlet to read from the Parents’ Newcomer Packet (K-24).  –What I learned about all the other items in this packet can be found in previous entries for the general Al-Anon Newcomer Packet (K-10). WHAT I LEARNED: 1. This…